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作者: Hollyren    時間: 2005-7-11 11:30 AM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

之前看書看過一個美國心理學研究,是說人類通常都是找尋自己的同類做朋友,什麼是朋友呢???就是大家都選擇與自己有類似文化背景,價值觀之類的人做朋友,正所謂"埋堆"就是這回事!
那麼我想問一下大家,你們在選擇朋友或者找愛人的方面是選擇和自己類似的人呢,還是選擇與自己互補的人呢??找尋同類的朋友/愛人,使人與人之間找到心靈上的共鳴和默契,找互補的朋友/愛人,使大家可以取長補短,可以使個人心智成長得更好!但是要求也會更高,是要一顆包容的心![hidepoll]
作者: 百葉窗    時間: 2005-7-11 12:15 PM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

不知道!!!
好難分得咁明確 = ="

作者: fannylam    時間: 2005-7-11 01:06 PM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

朋友&愛人
我都係揀同類型架.... !!
同聲同氣...   又岩傾...又岩玩.....唔好咩... ???
岩 style好"d".... 我鍾意...

作者: vling2884    時間: 2005-7-11 05:48 PM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

可以選擇既..
當然會要同一類型啦..
因為性格、行為較近..
會容易相處..
同更投契呀..
至於另一個..
雖然可以互補不足之處..
但總有分歧、差距既時候..
故風險就必定會存在..
自問真係唔敢冒險呀..

作者: porkchophell    時間: 2005-7-11 06:26 PM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

我選擇了互補.
因為同類是比較易溝通跟相處.
但是互補的時候大家可以提點大家.
因為這樣才會令自己進步.
不然只是和同類一起.
只會令自己的眼光不夠長遠!
作者: angefan    時間: 2005-7-11 09:42 PM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

同類也可以亙補的。我的同類是同樣有深度,對各樣事物都感到好奇,什麼都想要知道,關注心靈成長。
亙補的是每個屬靈人都有不一樣的個性,有些比較活潑開朗,有些較沉默孤言,我不覺得同類與亙補是有衝突的。
作者: joe198663    時間: 2005-7-12 01:22 AM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

Thanks  for your sharing!! 8)
Actually it is hard to find a true friend or a suitable object...
In fact everyone have their own character...
And everyone have their own lifestyile too...
It is hard to suit each other...
It is hard for us to imagine the other people's feeling...

Because of my peculiar character, it is hard for me to find a true friend...
Actually only a few friends know how to get along with me...
But I am satisfied with my dear friends...
I will chersih the precious friendship between me & my friends...

Thus if I want to meet friends, I hope that their character will be similar to me...
It would be great that they have same hobby as me...
So I can find more topics to chat with them...
And it is easier for me to get along with them...

On the other hand, I think it is really hard to find my true LOVE...
In fact I am afraid that I will be injured in LOVE again...
Whatever I was injured in LOVE...
The broken pieces of my dream pierce my heart...
Leaving the pain that I should never forget...
My heart is wandering having nowhere to go...
And I am setting sharp thorns around for fear of being touched...

Little by little, I realize that it is hard to find a suitable object...
When my true LOVE comes oneday, I will cherish it...
If I can fall in LOVE with someone, I will try my best to suit each other...
I want to embrace and praise two kindnesses, that we thought of each other...

It seems that there is a distance between everyone...
However we can break this obstacle with our LOVE...
Because of LOVE, we can overcome every challenge.....


作者: browneyes    時間: 2005-9-1 12:28 AM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

其實很難說吧~
如果是朋友的話~
我會選同類~
不過大多個性相同~興趣不太相同~
愛人的話~
我會選互補~
不過是個性互補~興趣一樣~
我想人總有些相同有些不同的~
那就可以有不一樣的新鮮感~^^~
作者: 反反白    時間: 2005-9-24 11:38 PM     標題: 選擇同類還是互補????

對於我來說~
朋友的~我就兩樣都無所謂啦!
可能因為同類的~
會有好多的共同話題~會有好多的共同興趣~會有好多的共同心靈智慧~
可能因為互補的~
會有好多的互動話題~會有好多的互動興趣~會有好多的互動心靈智慧~
作為朋友的~我會覺得兩樣都無所謂~
愛人的~我就一定會係選擇互補啦!
因為~與一個同自己唔同性格~唔同興趣~唔同智慧~的人一起~
係會有好多的學習機會的~可以令到自己有一個好好的成長機會!
奇怪人的我啦!




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