Long distance戀究竟work唔work呢?! 占卜, 黑暗, 青年, 情人

AndyJuggerna

[這個投票最後由AndyJuggerna在 2006/05/22 11:47pm 編輯]

大家好~ This is my first ever topic post~ 請多多指教呀~
其實就係咁既:
我就要去英國study咁要一年先番到黎一次
咁我上次summer holiday既last one week到呢就認識左我gf
即係話其實我真正同佢相處過既time都只係短短的one week
但出奇地唔知是否真係一見鐘情還是咩呢
我們第一次見面就已經算相當投契
之後我初初去左英國冇幾耐佢重表示我係佢marriage對像tim
但就話要佢幾歲我就要讀完曬書搵到stable job同儲夠錢同佢結婚
咁我都唔知點解隱隱約約認誠左la咁我未照好似平時咁開紿做番好自己向住這goal進發lor
咁其實佢大過我既佢21我19佢就suppose係話做hotel既
跟住time慢慢咁流逝佢就越來越由熱情變得冷淡(一係有時就忽冷忽熱咁!)
又越來越少contact我成日冇lala會有幾日唔online唔知做乜
跟住問番佢佢有時又好似有野答唔到同hide from me咁
我唔知係咪我多心la但我又唔夠strong問到佢足wor
佢間唔中又會有d表示佢係重有鐘意我既但我又唔知是真是假同埋有幾多
跟本同當初係有差別既但我don't know y亦形然愛著佢令到我很不知所醋lor
可能佢係第一個可以令到我由我過去黑暗既青年時光再次振作起來既人la
咁都唔知e段感情重有冇想像中咁大期望同worth唔worth continue
因為其實佢set俾我e個goal都幾大pressure ga可能要咁後生就sacrifice好多野咁
跟住前幾個月我啊爸又冇lala話經濟有d問題再afford唔到英國讀
要choose hk, australia or new zealand我其實又想change course wor
咁我新想讀個個course又can only be found in uk搞到我兩難進退唔知點好咁
我個gf又開紿吹我咁令到我pressure又increase左但at least佢重係choose我wor
咁其實有1個辦法可以繼續係uk讀既就係成功apply到British citizenship
我gf都係prefer我係uk讀埋既都係好似大部份人咁覺得uk係好d
咁我去搞la搞下搞下都搞左幾耐下一個一個月咁過左整整下e家都left左hk成7-8個月la
咁其實重有2months到都完左今年學期ga la但原本係念住提早番hk可以省番d time&money呀嘛
但其實我e幾個月黎都有d失落同矛盾先至會搞耐左因為我開紿實在唔知choose邊樣好
我唔知應該追求dream定係愛情好如果我要dream既話就要carry on係uk讀但係都未別得
就算得搞手續都可能要再waste多一年咁我就唔知我gf接唔接受到
但if我choose佢我又唔知係咪真係咁值得since我都唔知佢係咪真係愛我let alone有幾多la
又或者佢有可能有對我不忠e樣野其實我都疑惑左好耐ga la但我又唔敢肯定
佳因我又唔係有錢我又細過佢又未有事業佢都choose我加上我睇過占卜話我地係夫妻相wor
搞到我唔知如何是好好煩好辛苦但唔知y每次當我念番起我同佢既plan同開心事既時候
我總係好似唔想失去佢咁可能我係世間悍有既痴情漢 la=.=
咁我幾個月前開紿就同我gf講我應該可以就番咁佢都表示想
佢重好似all of a sudden對我熱情番d但我又月拖月耐好似令佢有d失望咁
再加上佢都feel到我有時係道唔知做乜咁好似開紿覺得我冇用冇上進心咁
跟住佢又開紿變番比較冷淡la依排重覺得好似勁左tim
成日唔知去左邊咁一係就online唔多講野唔知做乜咁(其實之前都有少少ga la)=.=
佢好多時都係話佢usy要番工所以tired又成但我總覺得唔係次次都係咁lor
我真係唔知係咪佢真係忙定係只係佢純粹唔鐘意咩都同我講定還是佢真係有外情
當然我真很不想係第3樣la但if it's true既話我又唔知係咪我都有責任定係佢一早以經係咁
都唔知咁樣既愛情係咪真係可行搞到我月來月沮喪日擔夜擔失去信心咁><
其實我念大家從來冇認真frankly咁express過自己既完全feeling缺少左溝通都係一個重要問題
我知道其實咁樣for大家都好hard同會比較難維持感情但我覺得應該冇論幾難都要撐到低lor
因為如果唔得既話當初就唔應該作出咁大既promise la, keep promise is very important!
如果真係個mistake係唔得既就應該講清楚唔好隱瞞咁遲早搞到大家更hurt更regret!
事實亦可能真係我有d paranoid既我有時比較難trust人占卜過都話我應該trust多d人
Especially我既情人但我覺得係咁既situation下真係很難做得到lor><
你們有咩睇法可唔可以help到我呢?
p.s. 佢最上次唔見左人4日(咁其實發生之前1日佢同我講過話佢period...跟住之後念番唔知係咪我自己wu思亂想la...haha...我念起女性有時period時會特別有性需要既)...第3日佢冇lala係hk2am到有online過一次但冇同我講野重只係on左10min到就off左la咁其實for佢一般黎講都算早...但出奇在係佢張相唔同左同埋佢個cam sign show左出黎係幾unusual既事黎既...我suspect佢個晚唔係home lor...咁我之後問番佢佢又話可能係公司d人唔小心開左姐...我話係咩點解會有change過status既...佢問我幾點我話2am到佢就話唔知la...我問佢係咪有咩暪住我...佢竟然就話aiya唔好咁問我la我唔慣人咁樣問我野...跟住之後幾日我係msn personal message寫左d我既feeling...佢唔知有冇睇到同get到係for佢ga la...第一日佢係成晚冇采過我ga lor=.=...咁我都冇采佢...再之後幾日佢竟然all of a sudden早左番home重係咁好似好想同我chat好miss我咁...初初兩晚我都完全ignore左佢到到第3晚last minute我先應番佢...但見佢又好似望落去冇notice過我d message咁...我就唔知佢究竟係咪有咩動機la...e次就係最可疑既一次...之後冇幾耐都冇乜野跟住最近this week又全week都冇online la...ai...=.=
呀重有我係多數用開msn既...有冇人知道y有時個display pic會stay on after log out有時又唔會加呢? 可能同線索有關都唔定~[hidepoll]

AndyJuggerna

I voted for Work for general because I believe in true love~
And I voted for other for my case because I'm not sure myself but I do hope it'd be the first option of course~
Hope you can share your thoughts and oppinions with me too~
Or even kindly offer me some wise words and advice~
Thanks a lot~

porkchophell

long distance relationship!
我覺得不太可能, 特別是相隔這麼遠的地方.
先說自己吧, 自己曾經都是過內人.
我也曾經在英國留學.
當時的情況很相似, 就是大家先以學業為主.
但感情真的很難保持. 一來大家有時差.
二來大家所做的東西都不同.
慢慢就會有一種疑心出來.
常常擔心對方會否做出對自己不好的事.
慢慢, 疑心就成了吵架的導火線.
而且我未從英國回香港的時間已經散了.
是因為見不到所以令大家常常猜對方.
成了不了解.