[純屬發洩]恨 如何, 成熟, 智慧

angefan

以前我以為自己是一個不懂得恨的人，當我明白了自己有一個不愛我的母親，我不敢再跟人說自己不會去恨。
我之所以會恨，不是因為我想要恨，而是因為我過去的傷痛，今天居然一次又一次的被這個忽然想得到我所關注的母親，一次一次又一次的在提醒我她如何地不愛我，如何地只在意自己的感覺，如何地不是真正的關心我。
關於過去，我只想忘記，只想逃避，何必得讓自己難過？
後記：無論有再成熟的人格，都總會有一些事情是自己不可以獨自快樂地面對的，但我都相信「一切都是上天都美好的安排」，只是人類的智慧有限，未能在這一刻參透吧！

呀倫

你呀媽做左d咩野呀!!??
很多人o既過去都係痛苦的悲傷的
好多人都會去逃避但已成過去!
眼前的事才是最重要!
你可以同你呀媽講講自己的感受丫!!
之前我呀爸媽都係咁不斷話我!!
跟住我就同佢講左我o既感受!!而家我同佢地相處都非常之好呀!
你試下啦!

反反白

"恨"~每個人都有.
只不過係每個人點解決呢個問題~
我都有恨~
雖然平時大家都會以為我係一個好開心~無苦惱的小朋友~
但~有咩可能真係無"恨"一樣野/一個人?!~
我都好"恨"一個人~咩人就唔好講啦~
但我用左一個唔會傷害人,又發洩到自己不安的方法~
我會在每一年我生日之前的一晚~
不斷的咀咒我恨的人~
好似今年噤~之前一日勁落雨,又行雷閃電
於是~我就在最後的時刻.咀咒佢比雷"射"~
噤大一歲~又一個新開始~
滿足左自己~又唔傷害人~(可能有人會話我好衰,好惡毒)
但~又有何不可呢?!~

joe198663

angefan:
Try to forgive your mother...
Actually it is worthless & painful for you to hate your mother...
And you are not able to hate her since she is your mother...
She is always your mother, even if how hateful she is...
At least she brings you to this wonderful world...
At least she teachs you how to hate a person...

If you continue to hate a person, you will never live as your wish...
In fact darkless will always hide in your heart, you won't be pleasure...
Actually everyone surely has darkness hidden somewhere in their heart, it prevents them from living as their wish...
Don't you know that many people are poorer than you?
Actually many people face to different problems everyday, not just you...

Don't you know that many people have already lost their parents?
They don't get any opportunity to cherish their parents...
When you lose your mother, you will also regret...
Why don't you cherish what you have?

Whatever I hated my father so much since he didn't treat my mother & me well...
So I was upset everyday since I only knew how to hate a person...
When my father passed away, I regreted with I did...
Whatever I promised I wouldn't cry for this hateful person...
But I cried suddenly...
Since I understanded that he really loved me, but he didn't know how to express it...
Before he died, he apoilogized to my mum and he regreted with what he did...
When I knew the truth, when I wanted to cherish him...
It was too late...

It seems that you shut the door of your heart and lost the key to open it...
So you feel upset, lost & helpless...
Actually there is nobody can help you...
In fact you are an adult now, you should solve this problem yourself...
Try to ponder that why you hate your mum...
Try to have a heart-to-heart with your mum...
And try to forgive your mum...
I believe that you will find your answer oneday...

Wish you solve your problem early! ^_^

freegoman

汝其花這麼多的時間心思去恨一個人，倒不如花時间做一些有意義的事，隨時間的過去，我相信你的恨亦會漸漸减退。

angefan

多謝大家的回應，我已經沒事。
呀倫：
要算她做了什麼，我可以告訴你，嚴格來說她什麼都沒做，既然她什麼都沒做，我盼望她一生都不再做什麼，不要等我長大後才做，我已經不再需要她，她為什麼要用行動告訴我她不愛我？她為什麼要用行動告訴我錢比我重要？她為什麼用行動告訴我她不在乎我？她這樣做只會令我原本已經癒合的傷口再次受刺激，我不想再痛。誰不知道有些問題是可以坦誠講出，但是我已經沒有能力去接受她，如果接受她是要令自己再次受到傷害，那又何必呢？
反反白：
咀咒是有可能成真的，妳有沒有聽過念力啊？當我心裡罵我媽的時候，我的理性就跟著會說一句：「不要這樣吧……」
Joe：
這個世界並不是想像中的那麼理想，誰不知道怨恨別人等於傷害自己呢？不過我也要感謝她讓我學會了恨，我終於明白到這個世界上是沒有不會恨的人，要是你不會恨，只是你比別人幸運，沒遇到你非恨不可的人吧！
Freegoman：
我不會真真正正的恨她，只是她每次觸痛我的傷口時我才會恨她，是不花一點時間的。她不碰我的傷口，我就會像平常一樣。

freegoman

angefan 你沒事就好喇！人總要生活，無論你開心與否，時間是不會停下來，不如開開心心過每一天的生活。共勉之。